Meeting someone new and embarking on a relationship with them is always exciting, fun and rife with thrills, particularly if the two of you find yourselves compatible on a sexual level, in which case the thrills are even more explosive. But even the most ardent lovers can sometimes find their passions quenched when life starts barging in: settling down, having children, spending too little time together or two much time together, work, stress … the list goes on. A long-term relationship has a wealth of benefits, not least the emotional and physical intimacy you share with your partner, but there is no denying that when a sex life starts to go down the drain, both parties experience a lack of fulfilment in one way or another.

A recent study at AJ’s London Escorts discovered that 1 in 5 women will fake an orgasm at some point in their life and 1 in 10 women currently aren’t happy with their current partner in law, we decided to ask the beautiful ladies on some tips and tricks to avoid these awkward situations.

Below are three tips to spice up a sex life that’s on its way out and get back those sparks you once had!

  • Explore. One reason a good sex life tends to pan out is due to a sense of monotony and regularity. The same position or same acts over and over again can eventually lead to boredom and dissatisfaction, so the key is to explore new territory and find something you both enjoy doing. Don’t be afraid to tell each other what you want; the foundation of a strong relationships is the ability to be open and honest with each other. Discuss your secret fantasies, act out role-plays – you may be surprised just how much more you’ll discover about each other by doing this!


  • Plan ‘alone time’. It may sound obvious, but you would be surprised how easy it is for people to cast aside the need to spend some quality time together. The pressures of life can quickly take over and before you know it, you and your partner are spending less and less time together, which further distances you apart. Arrange to have at least one or two hours a week where the two of you can explore your sexual fantasies, caress one another and really connect again. Make it romantic – light candles around the room, throw rose petals on the bed, go for a romantic walk under the moonlight. Set the mood, allow yourselves to fall into one another and let the magic take control.


  • Sexual Trance: Some couples, even after being together for a long time, still don’t know the erogenous part of their partner’s body. Sexual trance enables you to focus on the area of your own body that gives you pleasure and then informing your partner of what you like, where you like it and how you like it. Often, we presume that the area which pleasures us will be the same area that pleasures our partner, and more often than not, we are sadly mistaken. Pleasure comes in many forms, in many areas of the body, and the best way to enjoy the pleasure of one another is to ensure those spots are hit by your other half.